First Time Parents Podcast Series

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First Time Parents is an unedited, unfiltered podcast about a newly married couple (Heidi Anderson breakfast radio host & Sparky James “Griffo” Griffiths from Perth, Western Australia) as we tackle parenthood for the very first time, in all its shitty & glorious moments.

Intro – Meet The Parents

Meet the First Time Parents.

Heidi & Griffo from Perth, Western Australia are about to have their first baby…they’ve decided to document the entire first year in an unedited, real, raw account of parenthood.

At 40 weeks pregnant and ready to pop…any day now, they wanted to introduce themselves and give you a little taste of what you have to look forward to.

EP 1 – Our Birth Story

We finally had our baby!

AND…nothing went to plan during the labour.

In this ep, we speak about what happened during the labour and what it was like to meet our baby for the very first time!

EP 2 The BABY Bubble – Our First Few Weeks as First Time Parents

*WARNING this ep was recorded on barely any sleep & baby brain. Our mission is to document our journey in raw & unedited fashion & today there is a fair few F*cks & shits thrown around.

We delve into the first few weeks of being parents, sleep deprivation, perfection as parents, baby blues & ALL the glorious moments being a first-time parent brings.

EP 3 – Baby blues are the real deal, for women and men!

We had a big fight!

Both sleep deprived…AND we both said some things that we shouldn’t have! So, we debrief our fight, and it’s very raw.

In this episode, we also discuss the baby blues & how it has affected both of us over the past month, from anxiety to loss of identity.

EP 4 – TEN Things we’ve learnt since becoming parents!

This EP is ALL about tips & things we’ve learnt since becoming parents. We delve into everything we’ve discovered & learnt so far.

EP 5 – We did it, we had sex!

We debrief our first time having sex since having a baby! Throughout pregnancy, Heidi struggled with intimacy, and in this episode, they both get honest with how it made them both feel. A candid account of intimacy between these first-time parents…

EP 6 – A Trip to the hospital!

This ep is a little different, while Griffo (hubby) is at work, Heidi sits down with her Mum to chat about the emergency trip to the hospital & the comment Heidi’s Mum made outside the hospital, “Welcome to motherhood”.
They delve into the anxiety, shame & judgment they both felt in this moment.

EP 7 – Dad goes back to work

In this episode, the First Time Parents discuss their new roles as parents; Heidi the stay at home Mum & Griffo the “breadwinner”.

EP 8 – Life as a stay at home Mum

In this ep, Griffo asks Heidi a bunch of questions about parenthood and how she is finding being a stay at home Mum. They delve into her anxieties about leaving work in radio, her confidence as a new Mum and the most challenging part of being a parent. It’s one juicy ep!

EP 9 – First-time Mum is diagnosed with epilepsy only weeks after the birth of her son

Heidi went for a cuppa with her friend Tayla and spontaneously recorded their chat about Tayla’s story. Just weeks after having her first baby, Tayla had a seizure that left her unconscious on the kitchen floor. Tayla cannot hold her baby for long periods, drive or bath her baby. Her story is inspiring.

EP 10 – Dad has a shitty week and doesn’t love coming home to a crying baby

Heidi surprises Griff with the recording of this ep, to chat about his relationship with baby Memphis, as he has been struggling the last few weeks. Griff opens up about the struggle of coming home to a crying baby and a Mum who desperately needs an adult convo. The first-time parents dive into their fight, their parenting techniques and the struggle of a clingy baby in his 8-week leap!

EP 11 – First-time Mum is anxious about joining Mother’s Group

Heidi was really anxious about Mother’s Group & was hesitant to join at first. BUT in the end she joined a group & LOVES it – this chat is all about the anxiety leading up to it & how she feels now & what its all about.

EP 12 – Would you eat your placenta?

First-time mum Heidi decided to eat her placenta after the birth of her first child (In pill form). In this ep Heidi chats to Midwife Mel who is the creator & owner of Pure Placenta. They cover everything you want to know about turning a body organ into a pill & why so many women are choosing to eat their placenta, even when the health organisation is telling you not to. No questions are off limits.

EP 13 – Mum Guilt is REAL!

Mum Guilt is the real deal! Heidi delves deep into the guilt she has experienced leaving baby Memphis, the feeling of angst, anxiety and sadness. This EP you don’t want to miss, if you are a parent, get your ears around it.

EP 14 – Our Breastfeeding Journey

Our Breastfeeding journey has been super challenging, and a very bumpy road, who knew to breastfeed would be so tough? In this ep, we cover everything – fussy baby, nipple shields, mixed feeding, lactation nurses, sharing breast milk, pumping etc

EP 15 – Three-Four month sleep regression

What is sleep? It’s the most talked-about topic when you have a baby! The most common question we get is “How much sleep are you getting & how well does the baby sleep?” Our baby DID sleep well in the night & now he has hit the 3-4 month sleep regression, it feels like we are back to the beginning, waking several times a night. He is hard to settle and his favourite past time in the day is a cat nap. In this ep, we dive into our sleep-deprived state with a baby who is regressing, tips from the sleep seminar & how we survive in the day with a catnapper.

EP 16 – Single Mum Life

Heidi sits down with her best friend of 28 years Mel, who is also a first-time Mum, to chat everything about single Mum life. In the first few weeks of her son’s life, Mel faced a few challenges. She moved house, broke up with her partner & got mastitis. They chat about her new role as a single mum, how she juggles & how far she has come. (Mel only told Heidi a few weeks before she found out she was pregnant, that she didn’t want kids.)

EP 17 – Travel with a Baby

Our first flight with Baby Memphis is done & dusted. The anxiety in the lead up to flying was next level, and we were very fearful of travelling with the baby. Will he cry the whole way? In this ep, we speak about our first flight experience, the anxiety of travelling with a baby & give some tips.

EP 18 – Heidi Is a Shitty Friend

Three years ago, Heidi was a really shitty friend. One of her good friends had a baby, Heidi didn’t go & meet the baby when she was home to visit. Instead, she got drunk & sent her a text saying, “I’ll see them both next time.” In this episode, Heidi apologies to Sarah & they dive deep into how this made them both feel, how priorities change & the realisations Heidi has had since having her own baby. Has this happened to you?

EP 19 – Who should stay at home with the baby?

Deciding who stays home to be with the baby can be one of the toughest decisions you’ll ever make. Who gives up their career & for how long? Who makes more money? Can we afford it…Or do we both have to go back to work? Who wants to be at home with the baby 24/7?

All the questions you need to discuss. AND there is the whole pressure of what everyone else thinks you should be doing. Society always says the Dad should go to work & the Mum should stay at home. I know right, wtf? Such a crock of shit!

Currently, both parents are staying at home AND unemployed, they dive into why & how whilst splashing the family savings on a road trip holiday, because YOLO! We go deep about how these decisions affected our relationship, strain babies can have on you & how money can trigger you as a person.

A MASSIVE shoutout to our sponsors www.feedingfriend.com.au LOVE their breast & bottle self inflatable feeding pillow – to buy use code HEIDIL30 to get 30% off!

EP 20 – Dad is feeling really helpless as a First-time parent

Something we forget to talk about when the new baby arrives is how Dads feel. We check-in with Mum & then we goo & gah over the baby, but what about Dad?

They can sometimes be forgotten about when the new baby arrives.

Heidi & Griffo sit down to chat about the helplessness Griffo feels at times being a first-time Dad.

He finds parenting a real struggle, feelinghelpless, unable to comfort his baby boy Memphis & this can bring up feelings of frustration & anger.

In this ep, they talk about the helplessness from the man’s perspective, jealously, the shift in the bloke’s identity & the love for his child.

A MASSIVE shoutout to our sponsors www.feedingfriend.com.au LOVE their breast & bottle self inflatable feeding pillow – to buy use code HEIDIL30 to get 30% off!

EP 21 – We have called in a sleep expert to help

Are you getting very little sleep? Has your baby been really unsettled & waking all through the night or cat napping?

Do you need help? But too afraid to ask?

We feel you! This has been going on for us for just over two months, so we decided to ask for help, from a baby sleep expert.

In this episode, we talk to our sleep consultant about EVERYTHING to do with babies & sleep. We debrief sleep tips, routines, teaching them how to sleep, settle, daytime naps & awake times.

Baby Sleep Consultant – Donna www.bub2sleep.com.au

EP 22 – Starting a Baby on Solids with Dr Kyla

Starting a baby on solids is stressful & overwhelming, we had no idea where to start…So we called in the guru, a paediatric dietitian, Dr Kyla.

This ep is HUGELY informative, covering everything you need to know about starting a baby on solids.

Signs of when to start a baby, what to feed them & how, food allergies & habits, meal times & when…AND then the big question, what is BABY LEAD WEANING & is it a good idea?

BONUS EPISODE – 23 PART 1 How Mum feels before specialist appt

A diary entry of the anxieties that FIRST TIME Mum Heidi feels before going to the Ear, Nose & throat specialist to find out what is happening with her son’s health.

All the feels in this one as a Mum, the guilt, stress & worry.

BONUS EP 23 – Part 2 – Mum’s feelings after the specialist appt & diagnosis

Part 2 bonus ep Diary entry part 2, after the specialist – the diagnosis & the debrief.

How did Mum handle what was happening with her son?

EP 24 – First time Mum turns her side hustle into a business

If you want to know how to turn your side hustle or baby invention idea into a FULL BLOWN business, then this is a must-listen.

A hugely inspirational episode with Mum, Amanda Rowe.

She struggled with breastfeeding & found feeding in public made her very anxious & she was super uncomfortable. She sent hubby out to get her a breastfeeding pillow but found they were ALL big bulky…so she decided to invent her own & that’s how Feeding Friend was born.

EP 25 – Our Success with the Sleep Expert

Find out what happened after three weeks with the sleep expert.

This is the most requested episode ever!

We hired Donna Moala to help our son sleep & settle after waking 6-10 times a night… AND the difference & change has been HUGE! After three nights, we had Memphis sleeping through & settling himself.

This is an honest account of our challenges through this sleep help, it has been tough at times & our relationship has survived…(just haha)

We have learnt so much, but it hasn’t all been smooth sailing after hitting a few roadblocks, after the first few days Donna shares her advice, tips & her challenges working with us.

If you would like to know how to help your baby sleep, we ALL speak very honestly about our experience.

EP 26 – Our relationship after the baby

How is your relationship after the baby? We have found it to be a wild rollercoaster ride like parenthood – very up & down.

In this episode, we talk openly about our sex life & the pressure women feel to jump back into it post-baby.

We both answer truthfully on how we see our relationship after the baby & how it could be better.

Lots of topics covered from the financial pressures Dad carries, to jealously of the Mum & baby, resentment, date nights & frustrations.

EP 27 – We discuss ALL the BIG CONTROVERSIAL LIFE questions about our son

No question is off-limits in the episode.
We surprised each other with all the BIG LIFE questions around our son Memphis
Will we baptise him? If so, what?
What will you teach him about religion?
How will you punish him?
What if he smokes, drinks, takes drugs?
What will you teach him about money?
Will you spoil him?
Public or private school?
How will you feel when he leaves home?Arghhh this one hit Heidi right in the heart. This episode is, BY FAR the most emotional.
We also delved into leaving him messages on the poddy for when we turns 18, and that just broke us both. Grab the tissues.
Have you had these conversations with your partner yet?

EP 28 – Mum & Dad go wild & let their hair down

A day out with friends ended up with a few too many drinks & a hangover the next day.

Heidi & Griffo chat about the importance of this for their relationship & more importantly themselves to let loose for a few hours & be who they used to be before the baby.

BUT after a few drinks & leaving the baby, Heidi beats herself up feeling guilty & anxious.

We really did run wild…it was fun to forget all our responsibilities for a bit!

Big shoutout to sponsors this week Beaba for all your french designed baby products www.beaba.com.au use code Heidi for 15% off.

EP 30 – Coronavirus Anxieties – You Are Not Alone!

Anxiety.

Fear.

Scared.

Panic.

Moodiness.

Depression.

Emotional.

Eating and drinking a shit load!

All of these feelings are real & we speak about it in this weeks episode.

We were trying to avoid talking about the pandemic (because it was everywhere & we wanted a break) BUT to be honest, that would be sticking our heads in the sand.

Lots of feelings around this with new parents & parents to be so we want you to know you are not alone.

Love you all.

Stay safe.

EP 31 – Sex after having a baby

WARNING – Do NOT listen to this episode with kids around, you’ll have to answer too many questions.

Sex as a new parent is few and far between, but we managed to fit in a quickie yesterday while our son had a nap.

We speak openly about our sex life since having a baby, the struggles that Heidi has had with vaginal pain post-birth, her mindset and loss of libido.

Griffo has been looking after himself if you know what we mean 😉

A very open & honest discussion around sex after having a baby, how they both feel about their sex life, and how much they “should” be having.

EP 32 – When to have baby number TWO

When do you start to think about baby number two?

How long after your first should you try?

What if one partner doesn’t want another baby?

When is the right time?

WE had to take a pregnancy test this week, so these questions were inevitable. Griffo doesn’t want another baby, so this episode got interesting.

EP 33 – How to survive Iso-life as a new parent

Surviving parent life is tough.

Surviving parent life with COVID-19 is a whole new ball game.

Tension is at an all-time high, your cut off from friends and family so that arguments can be more frequent.

We get deep about our iso-arguments, we share our challenges and how we are coping as a couple. We drop some survival tips for new parents on how we are getting through isolation.

How are you surviving?

Big love to our sponsors Denado co sugar-free ice cream, get around them in isolation, it’s a kids fav. Check out their stockists www.denadaco.com

EP 34 – Lactation consultant answers all your questions

Surviving parent life is tough.

Heidi and Griffo chat to Midwife & Lactation Consultant Susie Prout, who answers all your questions around feeding your baby.

They cover;

  • Everything you wanna know around breastfeeding
  • Breastfeeding & drinking alcohol
  • Latching & fussy feeders
  • Cracked & sore nipples
  • Nipples & nipple shields
  • Baby weaning off boobs and solids
  • Bottle feeding & mixed feeding
  • Reflux babies
  • Expressing & Breast pumps
  • Babies using Mum’s as human dummies
  • Night feeds
  • Expressing colostrum pregnant
  • Support partners. Griffo shares his perspective of their breastfeeding journey and the challenges he felt as a new Dad

Big love to our sponsors Denada Co. sugar-free ice cream, get around them in isolation, it’s a kiddie fav. Check out their stockists www.denadaco.com

EP 35 – The 10 baby products we couldn’t live without

We have put together a list of baby items that we couldn’t live without and have been a game changer for us as First Time Parents.

If you’re a first time parent or newly pregnant, this LIST is made for YOU. 

Big love to our sponsors Denada Co. sugar-free ice cream, get around them in isolation, it’s a kiddie fav. Check out their stockists www.denadaco.com

EP 36 – Our Birth Story told from the husband’s perspective

Almost eight months post-birth, we hear Griffo’s perspective of how the birth went down & how he felt in the moments leading up to the birth of their son.

Heidi was induced due to gestational diabetes at 39.5weeks but was still trying to go natural with hypnobirthing and no drugs…things didn’t go in her favour and Heidi ended up delivering Memphis via C-section.

Griff shares their birth story and tips for support partners.

Big love to this weeks sponsors our friends at Love to Dream. The award-winning Swaddle Up is uniquely designed to allow babies to sleep with their arms up. Check out their range www.lovetodream.com.au use code 15Heidi to receive 15% off.

EP 37 – Gender Disappointment

Did you desperately want a child of the other gender?

This topic is one that is usually avoided and very taboo in the parenting world.

When Heidi was pregnant, all she wanted and talked about was having a baby girl, was she disappointed when she had a son? They speak all about it, in this weeks episode.

Big love to our sponsors Love To Dream, the award-winning Love To Dream SWADDLE UP™ is uniquely designed to allow babies to sleep with their ARMS UP. Visit lovetodream.com.au 

Use code 15HEIDI to receive 15% off.

EP 38 – Postpartum Anxiety & Depression in Mum & Dad

This is a NO BULL SHIT chat about parenting.

1-7 women will be diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and depression, but what about the partners? They are going through HUGE changes too and suffer a lot of the time in silence.

Heidi and Griffo catch up with Dr Preeya Alexander to talk postpartum anxiety and depression, and nothing is off-limits.

It’s a conversation ALL parents should listen to – all three discuss their own personal battles with mental health and their journey as parents.

They speak openly about the anger and frustration you can experience as a parent;

  • identity loss
  • signs to look out for anxiety and depression in both parents
  • how to not forget the support person
  • tips and advice to seek help.

Big love to LOVE TO DREAM our sponsors this week, to get 15% use code 15Heidi. (Offer ends June 15th.) Visit lovetodream.com.au 

EP 39 – Mother’s Day Disappointment

Griffo dropped the ball and didn’t do anything for Heidi’s first Mother’s Day.

He wrote Heidi a last-minute card on their shopping list paper and didn’t organise anything for her.

She was pissed off.

In this episode, Heidi confronts Griffo about the day, and they both share their perspectives.

Thank you to our sponsors Love to Dream “The Swaddle Up” best invention EVER for your baby, get around the discount 15Heidi to get 15% off lovetodream.com.au (offer ends 15th June.)

PS lots of F bombs in this ep, it’s not really safe to listen in front of the kids.

EP 40 Girls Trip – Mum’s first night away from baby

Mum went wild on a girls trip and spent her first night away from Memphis, who is nine months old.

She felt anxious in the lead-up but loved every minute of being “Heidi” when she was away. Her and Griff dive into the anxieties, her wild day out at a wine tour and how she forgot part of the breast pump…and what she had to do after leaving it 3 hours away.

Massive love to our sponsors www.lovetodream.com.au to get 15% off use the code 15heidi. (Offer available to 15th June 2020)

EP 41 – Milestones and comparing your babies development to others

It’s hard not to compare when other babies are developing quicker than your baby.

We all do it and sometimes think, we have failed as parents because our child might be slower at meeting a milestone than the other babies around them.

Heidi talks about the pressures she sometimes placed on herself and Memphis, especially in Mothers group when other babies were reaching milestones before him.

EP 42 – Things you wish someone had told you about the postpartum journey

I learnt so many things postpartum about my body and my baby, and now I want to share them with you. This episode is hugely relatable, nothing is off-limits, and I think you’ll be nodding away.

Many of them are never talked about or shared, and I wish someone had told me.

Griffo was away on a boys weekend, so Sophie Walker host of Australian Birth Stories joined Heidi to chat all about the things you wish someone had told you about the postpartum journey.

EP 43 – Our relationship struggles

For the first time in our history recording, we had to edit something out.

Things got heated talking about our relationship and connection post lockdown.

Heidi recently launched her business, Griffo was struggling with work and the baby, and they had drifted apart the last few weeks.

The relationship after the baby and the juggle is hard, and they both get very honest with each other and what they need from one another.

This kinda feels like a therapy session.

EP 44 – The Juggle – business, baby and hubby

Heidi launched part of her new business this week and things have been hectic, trying to juggle it all.

They delve into to the challenges she faced trying to balance Mum life along with the baby and everything else.

A very open and honest chat about MUM GUILT, finances, time management and their relationship.

EP 45 Parent Drinking – are you boozing too much?

How much do you drink as a new parent?

Have you increased your alcohol intake? Both parents get honest about how much they have been drinking and using alcohol as an escape.

It’s an easy option for adult time. Heidi talks about letting her self go and not having the capacity to think about what she eats and drinks right now.

A candid and open chat about drinking as a new parent.

EP 46 – We have TEETH!

In this ep we celebrate our baby boy finally cracking a couple of teeth at 10 months.

We have had many sleepless nights and all the symptoms were there so we were pumped to finally see some teeth.

WAHOOOO

EP 47 – ALL YOUR MEDICAL QUESTIONS ANSWERED

Shut down your search on DR Google NOW, we have all YOUR medical questions answered with DR Preeya Alexander (The Wholesome Doctor)

WE COVER EVERYTHING from “Why does my baby grunt” to why sex shouldn’t hurt post birth.

  • Skin care
  • Teething
  • Baby poo 
  • Nappy rash
  • Baby brain
  • Cleaning foreskin on boys 
  • Postpartum hairloss
  • Anxiety
  • Choking and starting solids
  • Sunscreen on newborns

Heidi spent many days and nights googling all of this stuff, today Dr Preeya answered it all, sometimes you just need reassurance as a new parent that this is normal.

EP 48 – Our Pregnancy Story Part One – Anxiety, Identity shift & body image

Heidi found out she was pregnant on their honeymoon after being told she wouldn’t fall pregnant naturally. (It happened the very first time they tried). Heidi faced enormous challenges around accepting her pregnancy, and in this ep, they talk about her anxiety, identity crisis, body image issues and the fear around losing the baby.

The first few months of pregnancy, Heidi didn’t let anyone talk about it because she was processing the HUGE changes in her relationship to come, her career and her identity as well as feeling sick 24/7.

EP 49 – Our Pregnancy Story Part Two – our relationship hurdles, gestational diabetes & hypnobirthing

Pregnancy was tough on Heidi & Griff’s relationship and in this ep the couple dive into why they saw their psych, his drinking and partying in the lead up to being a Dad & how Heidi became very primal and wouldn’t take any BULLSHIT from anyone.

Pregnancy was a rollercoaster of high and lows – including Heidi’s breakthrough moment surrounding her body, hypnobirthing and how it changed their perspective on birth & Heidi’s Gestational diabetes diagnosis at 26 weeks.

EP 50 – Should we have a FIRST BIRTHDAY?

First time in the history of the podcast, we stopped & had to delete the first ep and start again. There was too much tension & anxiety around the topic of COVID 19.

A hugely emotional ep around planning their son’s 1st birthday, the bog question to organise one? When Heidi’s family are stuck on the other side of the country because of COVID 19 border restrictions.

The couple delve into planning a first birthday during COVID, should they even have a party to celebrate this huge milestone, who to invite, should you go all out and how much do you spend on their baby?

EP 51 – Dad’s struggling to connect

In this ep, Griffo gets REAL about his connection with Memphis. There are days, he finds it super hard as a Dad and he struggles to connect.

If you know a Dad who feels the same, this ep is for them.

Heidi and Griffo have been fighting recently about his efforts with their son, they both get passionate and very honest about his parenting.

EP 52 – Road Trip Tips

First time parents Heidi and Griffo love a routine…they also have baby Memphis on a strict sleep schedule, so road trips and holidays can cause anxiety.

Holiday anxiety was in full force prior to the trip but the FTP came up with a plan to survive the road trip with a car seat screamer (since Memphy was 7 months old, he screams every time he gets put in the car seat.)

EP 53 – Our son went to daycare

Deciding to send your child to day care for our First Time Parents was a tough an emotional decision, ok that’s a lie, maybe just for Heidi.

In this ep, Heidi shares everything you need to know about making this decision – how she came to this decision, what questions she asked, how she found the daycare and WHY she chose them.

Heidi was overcome with emotion and mum guilt for his orientation, whilst Memphis had the best time ever and was super chilled and happy.

EP 54 – Our Son turned ONE

What a year.

We all survived.

In this ep we reflect on the first year of being parents – the highs, lows, hardships and challenges we all faced as a First Time family. This episode is full of LOVE and advice for new parents.

EP 55 – Postpartum SEX

This EP is a must-listen for BOTH parents.
Dr Preeya Alexander answers all your questions about sex after delivery, post vaginal and c-section.
The most common reason women struggle to have sex post-birth is because of pain, we discuss this and how you can help this.
All topics affecting postpartum sex are covered including mood disorders, exhaustion, being stuck in your head, importance of pelvic floor and the males perspective.

EP 56 – Mum is struggling

It’s Mum’s turn.

Heidi is having a rough ride right now with her newly one year old son Memphis.

He is testing her boundaries and showing a lot more interest in his Dad than usual…it seems the tables have turned and Dad is now the fav.

Its been an emotionally challenging few weeks for Heidi and it seems she is the one suffering from separation anxiety.

This Ep is sponsored by LOVE TO DREAM
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