Anxiety is the number one reason people message me on social media. They either want to talk about their mental health or get advice on how I live and deal with mine.
So I just wanted to issue a simple reminder to everybody struggling right now: you are not alone.
I don’t often share the messages I get but let me tell you, there are sh*tloads.
Unfortunately, given the number, I do miss some, so I wanted to put together a list of tips that help me live my best life… while also being an anxious mess.
I woke up this morning to a couple of messages from people about their anxiety. They were feeling really alone and at rock bottom. It breaks my heart because I’ve been there, but it’s also an awesome reminder that we are all in this together and not alone.
So many of us have been there before or are there with you right now.
Whenever anyone messages me I instantly want to help them. That’s my first reaction because I know that feeling of helplessness. But I also have to remind myself that it’s their journey and what works for me might not work for them.
But I still think me sharing my tips is worth it because I believe you should try everything a few times to see what works for you, then take bits from each.
My mental health journey is a constant battle and what people might forget is that I work at it every day. If I don’t, that’s when I fall off and ‘Anxious Annie’ arrives.
Here are my tips…
✨ Meditation is a game changer – I’ve written about it in the past and it has absolutely changed my life. I meditate every morning for 10 minutes after my alarm goes off and then 5-10 minutes just before our show starts and then most days another 10-20 minutes through out day. I do a mix of guided meditation, silent meditations, whatever I feel that day.
✨ Exercise – I go to the gym, walk, do pilates and yoga and I don’t do it to lose weight anymore, I do it because it helps my anxiety! This is why I still workout on holidays. Find what you love and what makes you feel good.
✨I see an amazing psychologist – she is going to have to pay me royalties soon, I brag about her so much. My advice when finding a psych is to think of it like dating, you might have to see a few different ones before you find your match. I looked for years before I found my gal. Don’t forget get to your GP to get a mental health plan, this will help with costs.
✨ I immerse myself in books about mental health with strategies and self help. I follow a bunch of brilliant coaches online that inspire me every day through their videos. I like to fill my mind with knowledge and power… when I’m not watching trash TV on my laptop.
✨ I use essential oils every day. I burn them in the house and I also wear them
✨ Be open to try new things for your mental health – holistic practices, hypnosis, mental health groups, online courses, workshops, whatever, because you never know… it might just work! I’ve spent many weeks and plenty of cash trying new things and I don’t regret any of it, I got something out of every single thing I tried.
✨Reach out to someone and let them know where you’re at. I know it’s hard, believe me… I’ve been there and you still have moments of anxiety where I struggle to open up. But I know by sharing my story, I have turned whole life around. Some of your friends or family won’t be the right people to support you and that’s totally OK, think about which person will just listen to you because you will feel so much better after you share, I promise.
✨ Seek out someone at work who can support you, be open and honest about your struggles and let them in, so they understand your behaviour sometimes. I did it just last week, I asked my boss to lunch and blurted out all my thoughts, with a headline first of “I’m not sure if any of these thoughts are real but I just need to say it out loud.”
✨ It takes constant work, every day you need to work on yourself, even if it’s for five minutes.